heart, rose, key-guard your heart

One day, while perusing YouTube for songs about unrequited love, I came across Al Green’s “How Can You Mend A Broken Heart?”

I can think of younger days
When living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do
I could never see tomorrow
 
But I was never told about the sorrow
How can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?

I noted the hundreds of comments left by listeners. Many had experienced a broken heart— from a rejected lover to a lover lost to death.

It is obvious …

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When you’re the young and the restless, you truly believe image is everything. You do what it takes to have that fit-looking body. Then, when you come to the awareness that you have one life to live or all your children are grown-up and have moved away, your health becomes everything. You realize your health may be all you can depend on. You need the guiding light of wisdom to help you navigate this never-before-seen terrain of aging. On this terrain your health is your telescope that you will use to see your prospective self into the future. Therefore your health is your…

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man with outstretched arms-gratitude

It was a rainy fall day. I sat by my window longing for some respite in the weather so that I could go to the gym. It finally came. I quickly got dressed, packed my bag, and headed for the gym. There I met Margarite, my 74-year-old friend, who had just finished exercising.

“It’s a beautiful rainy fall day,” I chimed.

Margarite didn’t agree and quickly corrected me: “There is nothing beautiful about all the rain that’s been flooding people’s homes.”

I was taken aback, but I was not going to let it go so easily. “Well, I am grateful for the rain. I …

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elderly man playing harp-managing hormones and stress

Sometimes aging brings on its own stresses as hormones change. Consider weight gain: menopause in women and andropause in men can trigger it. And the condition can be worsened if stress is present.  Why? When you experience stress at the same time your body is undergoing biological change, the discord can be manifested in weight gain. Therefore, managing your hormones and stress level is important to maintaining a healthy weight. And a healthy weight is an essential part of harmony.

Harmony is another word for balance. In music, harmony means the sound of two or more no…

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Intentional Aging

You’re not as young as you used to be. But you’re not as old as you’re going to be.[1] So you may as well go ahead and plan how you are going to age. Maybe you thought growing old was something beyond your control—“it just happens if you live long enough!”—but the truth is, you have a say in how you age. You can watch yourself grow old or you can be intentional and age well.

Experts[2] say there are four areas of your life you should focus on if you want to influence the way you age: health, autonomy, security, and happiness.
Health
Decide what to age well mean…

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